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“I do not know, indeed, whether this loose style has not
some secret charm for those who speak and write amongst these nations. As the
men who live there are frequently left to the efforts of their individual
powers of mind, they are almost always a prey to doubt; and as their situation
in life is forever changing, they are never held fast to any of their opinions
by the immobility of their fortunes. Men living in democratic countries, then,
are apt to entertain unsettled ideas, and they require loose expressions to
convey them. As they never know whether the idea they express today will be
appropriate to the new position they occupy tomorrow, they naturally acquire a
liking for abstract terms. An abstract term is like a box with a false bottom;
you may put in it what ideas you please, and take them out again without being
observed.”
“The reproach I address to the principal of equality is not
that it leads men away in the pursuit of forbidden enjoyments, but that it
absorbs them wholly in quest of those which are allowed. By these means a kind
of virtuous materialism may ultimately be established in the world, which would
not corrupt, but enervate, the soul and noiselessly unbend the springs of
action.”
“If two Englishmen chance to meet at the antipodes, where
they are surrounded by strangers whose language and manners are almost unknown
to them, they will first stare at each other with much curiosity and a kind of
secret uneasiness; they will take care to converse only with a constrained and
absent air, upon very unimportant subjects. Yet there is no enmity between
these men; they have never seen each other before, and each believes the other
to be a respectable person. Why, then, should they stand so cautiously apart?
We must go back to England for the reason.”
“I have often noticed in the United States that it is not
easy to make a man understand that his presence may be dispensed with; hints
will not always suffice to shake him off . I contradict an American at every
word he says, to show him that his conversation bores me, he instantly labours
with fresh pertinacity to convince me; I preserve a dogged silence, and he
thinks I am meditating deeply on the truths that he is uttering; at last I rush
from his company, and he supposes that some urgent business hurries me
elsewhere. This man will never understand that he wearies me to death unless I
tell him so, and the only way to get rid of him is to make him my enemy for
life.”
“It is not my purpose to inquire whether the new state of
things that I have just described is inferior to that which preceded it or
simply different. Enough for me that it is fixed and determined; for what is
most important to meet with among men is not any give order, but order.”
“An American, instead of going in a leisure hour to dance
merrily at some place of public resort, as the fellows of his class continue to
do throughout the greater part of Europe, shuts himself up at home to drink. He
thus enjoys two pleasures; he can go on thinking of his business and can get
drunk decently by his own fireside.”
“The Americans, in their intercourse with strangers, appear
impatient of the smallest censure and insatiable of praise. The most slender
eulogy is acceptable to them, the most exalted seldom contents them; they
unceasingly harass you to extort praise, and if you resist their entreaties,
the fall to praising themselves. It would seem as if, doubting their own merit,
they wished to have it constantly exhibited before their eyes. Their vanity is
not only greedy, but restless and jealous; it will grant nothing, while it
demands everything, but is ready to beg and quarrel at the same time.”
I am consistently amazed at how accurate and insightful De Tocqueville's observations remain nearly 200 years on
ReplyDeleteStrange to think how western culture managed to survive until 1492 on passive aggression alone.
ReplyDeletethese are just the parts that make neat little aphorisms, the book as a whole isn't passive aggressive. General tone is more like
Delete'America; good, good, ok, unusual, check this part out, this thing works, good, excellent, ok thispartsabitrubbish.'
oh i like De Toqueville, it's just funny how he really does assume passive aggression is an international language
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